I remember a counsel I received from one Professor in pharmaceutics after my wedding over a decade ago. He said, “marriage is a union of two forgivers “. It made little sense then, as he advised me to practice forgiveness.
Over time, I have seen the relevance of that counsel and will dwell on that today. In preparing for marriage, it is necessary to train our minds to adapt to God’s word.
We are all a work in progress and no matter how great we think we are, we could offend people unintentionally and vice versa. What this means is that being in a relationship makes us closer to people and there would be times of misunderstanding.
The people closest to us are more likely to offend us. This is one of the reason many people struggle in marriage. Keeping your heart healthy by practicing forgiveness in marriage is lifesaving.
The question is, how do we go about it? Ephesians 4 vs 32 gives us a guide. We overlook offences because of Christ and nothing else. If you focus on what has been done to you, it’s difficult to move on, but focusing on Christ gives you strength to recover before attempting to register your displeasure at the right time.
If someone broke up with you, forgive them, forgive yourself and move on because of what is ahead of you. Prov 4 vs 23 says, keep your heart with all diligence. The issues of life flow from it. I pray for grace to practice forgiveness in all aspects of our lives.